What Should We Memorize Next? An Annual Cycle of Poems, Hymns, and Scripture.

LauraDiscipleship, English Literature, Homeschooling, Morning Time

Our Morning Time is beautiful and dangerous…

Every day after breakfast, the children and I gather around the table for “Morning Time”. We light a candle and sing the Doxology.

Before you get any visions of sublime halos on our little homeschooling heads, let me give you a glimpse of how it really goes. This will pretty much sum it up: my son accidentally lit his hair on fire TWICE. Both times, he was leaning over his morning time binder when smoke began ascending from his head.

Although it looked like Pentacost, it didn’t smell like Pentacost.

An uproar of blowing, flapping, hooting, wailing, and laughing ensued.

Yes, we replaced the banquet candlesticks with a jar candle whose flame is less exposed. Ahem.

Also, you should know that when we sing the Doxology, all of the kids stand on their chairs with their arms upraised. I’d love to think that this is their outward display of passionate worship. It is not. They are competing to see who can be the tallest. I am forever mingling my worship of God with fear that one of them will topple over… into the candle, of course.

Nonetheless, Morning Time is a blessed time. I love the candle because it reminds us/ me of the Holy Spirit’s presence in our home. I love the Doxology because it reminds us/ me of God’s grandeur over the whole world. I even love that the children have created their own little traditions around Morning Time because it makes it something bonding, humorous-at-times, and special.

We…

  • pray together,
  • sing our hymn-of-the-month,
  • read a devotional (currently, The Jesus Storybook Bible), 
  • memorize our poem-of-the-month,
  • memorize our Scripture passage-of-the-month, and
  • play a brain-warm-up-game like Spot It or Memory.All in all, it takes about 25 minutes.

My hope is that we’ll cycle through the same series of truth, goodness, and beauty every year so that by the time our children leave our home, they have these pieces firmly established in their hearts and minds. May they become the soundtrack, the mother tongue, the fabric of our family life.

Now that it’s April, we are moving on to a new poem, hymn, and passage of Scripture. Last month, we memorized Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 43, sang “Holy Spirit Living Breath of God” and prayed/ read Psalm 23 and The Lord’s Prayer.  We’ll review them from time to time this year, but we’ll come back around to spend deep day-after-day time with those beauties next year, and the year after that.

“Thou, my best thought by day and by night…”

This month, we’ll be memorizing Gerard Hopkins’ “The Grandeur of God”, singing “Be Thou My Vision” and memorizing Romans 12 with its convicting and inspiring description of the Christian life.

Three free Printables for your Annual Memory Work…

Would you like to fill your soul with goodness, truth, and beauty? If you don’t know where to begin, consider coming right along on our annual path through 12 Hymns, 12 Poems, and 12 Passages of Scripture. These printables will take the guess-work out of  that looming question: “What should we memorize next?”

Enjoy this variety of pieces that build the human soul for life’s various trials and triumphs. These gems are also well-respected place in literary and/ or Church history.

All you have to do is download and print these beautiful PDF’s (designed by my friend, Ashley Munn).

Select one piece from each path.

Simply read or sing a portion or the whole of that piece every day for a month.

(Oh, and to make life even easier for you – and for “future me” – I already created direct links for each piece. Click here for that.)

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The Birthday Book: THE answer for that ever-growing stack of greeting cards

LauraAll Posts, Holidays, Motherhood

Do you have a stack of greeting cards that will sit in a precious little stack for the rest of time?

Do you wince when someone in your family spends $4.99 on a greeting card that, let’s face it, will just sit in that precious little stack for the rest of time?

Do you want to treasure your family’s sentiments and generosity, but don’t know how to make the most of that…precious little stack?

Do you see this lovely little black book?

It is the answer to all of your troubles.

Introducing “The Birthday Book“!

My birthday is next week, so I gifted myself a $13 blank book that will house my family’s loving thoughts and wishes on every birthday, Mother’s Day, and “Unofficial Words-of-Affirmation-For-Mom Day”.

Here’s the plan:

On my big day, the kids are going to decorate a page and write a message for me. They’ll use my beloved writing pens, colorful Sharpie pens, stickers, colored pencils, the whole shebang. They’ll record their best wishes, hopes, and dreams for the year to come. We’ll put the date up at the top of the page and they’ll sign their names on the bottom.

I’ll love and admire their work with plenty of ooo’s and ah’s.

Then, I’ll put the book on the shelf.

On Mother’s Day, I’ll take it back out again and place it on the countertop. They’ll scribble, write acrostic poems, jot great memories from the year, and draw colorful flowers. While they do, they’ll look back at what everyone created on my birthday. We’ll love and sigh together.

Then, I’ll put the book back on the shelf.

Over the years, I’ll take it out and put it back so many times that the binding will creak open and the pages will be full of love. We’ll have memorized each person’s messages and treasured the sentiments. We’ll watch as handwriting changes over time, look for the consistent little twirls and doodles that never go away, admire the improvement in composition, and remember the good times, the grateful times, and the blessings.

No more random pile of cards, no more accidentally-recycled masterpieces, no more forgotten loving words.

Instead, every sentiment will be treasured in one beautiful book… to be read and written and read again, over the years.

I snagged a book for my husband, too. We’ll start that on Father’s Day.

With Mother’s Day right around the bend (May 14th!), grab a book and some high quality pens for yourself or a mom you love and enjoy this simple, satisfying tradition. Would you let me know how you make it your own? I’d love to know.

[By the way, if you loved this post and are looking for practical tips to improve your daily life, you’ll love one of my most popular posts ever: Motivate Your Kids Without Bribery, Candy, or Charts. And, of course, you can always subscribe to LauraBooz.com so you don’t miss out on one single smidgeon of encouragement!]

The First 7 Years: What Really Matters in Early Childhood

LauraAll Posts, Babies, Motherhood, Preschool, Toddlers

“Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.” – Aristotle

Oh Aristotle, you always stop me in my tracks.  Seven years old, huh? That’s all the time I’ve got to shape my child??

The years before a child begins grade school are the most formative years of his life.

We moms know this. Of course we want to make the most of the early years, but our arms are full, our minds are distracted, and our energy is depleted.

Our culture is replete with suggestions, sign-ups, and standards for how we should raise our children and it’s hard not to feel obligated to all of the options for preschools, sports, music lessons, art lessons, play dates, and service projects… for the average two-year-old.

How many times have I been ready to sign my child up for the next wonderful thing and I suddenly wonder, “Wait… Does she really need this? Will it be good for her? Will the commitment be good for me and our family?”

How can we be sure that we are investing our time, energy, and resources in the very best way, for the very best outcome? 

Today, I’m tackling these unwieldy but important questions.

Here’s a framework on which you and I may create simple, beneficial, and meaningful years for our little ones.

5 Things That Matter in Early Childhood

First, a few words: Every child is created by God with infinite dignity and worth. He trusts you and I to nurture them. This is the good hard work we’re called to do as mothers. It might require all we’ve got to give.

Promise me you won’t feel obligated to tackle every single suggestion today. Sure, I pursue all 5 of these habits on a regular basis, but I’m usually focusing on one little piece at a time, depending on where I need to grow or what our family needs most.

Receive God’s help as you consider one step – just one – that you may take towards nurturing your child, yourself, and your home.

  1. Invest time and energy in your personal growth.

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears it down…” Proverbs 14:1

Your physical health, mental well-being, emotional stability, and depth of wisdom matter immensely to the home you are building and the child you are raising.

While your child is young, invest in your own growth as a mother. Don’t let obligations for play groups, story times, co-opts, arts and crafts, car pools, and toy organization distract or exhaust you from the important task of becoming a strong mother. The plan is that mama + baby grow up beautifully and naturally, side by side.

Suggestions for personal growth:

  • Develop your relationship with God.

Dig into Scripture whenever you can. Study it, meditate on it, memorize it, sing it, listen to it, and surround yourself with friends who love it.

Start here: I keep a small easily-held Bible on the nightstand next to the rocking chair where I nurse the baby. This encourages me to pick it up and read it several times a day. I also surround myself with friends, older women, and younger women who are devoted to God. Simply spending time with them strengthens my resolve to walk with Jesus. Finally, I listen to beautiful, encouraging music and uplifting podcasts and sermons.

“Thou, my best thought by day or by night…” – from “Be Thou My Vision”

Learn to pray alone. Learn to pray with friends.

Your life is not your own; learn what it means to walk daily with the Lord.

  • Read and study about Christian womanhood.

Start here: Learn how to be an active member of the Church. Learn how to love your husband and nurture your children. Find an older woman who can contribute wisdom and friendship. Find authors who encourage you according to Scripture: read their books, listen to their podcasts, subscribe to their blogs, and let their encouragement soak into your heart.

I need a daily dose of edification regarding my calling as a woman and a mother. Without the consistent encouragement of a community of like-minded Christian women, I think I’d give up.

  • Examine your daily rituals and look for one area in which to grow. 

Start here: Learn more about the areas of life that you’ll need to embrace as a mother.  Acquire practical skills – like gardening and budgeting – as well as relational skills like conflict-resolution, forgiveness, and faithfulness. As a young mother, I’ve had to learn a great deal about nutrition, cooking, meal planning, and finances.

Is there anything on this list that seems necessary-interesting to you? Jump in!

Finances
Time Management/ Schedule
Menu Planning
Grocery Shopping
Cooking/ Baking
Exercise
Vehicle Care
Household Maintenance
Cleaning
Organization
Holiday traditions
Decorating
Clothing Shopping
Laundry
Sewing
First Aid

Imagine if you can become strong and confident in several of these daily-life areas over the next five years. That will be worth your effort! Every ounce of skill and good habit that you establish today will smooth the road ahead. Motherhood only gets more complicated, with hungrier mouths to feed and larger clothes to wash.  You’ll be a much stronger mother for having these practical skills on hand, and you’ll be available to enjoy and counsel your growing children.

  • Ask God to heal you where you are hurting and to mature you where you are weak.

Perhaps God would bless you by addressing sin or weaknesses that would otherwise hold you back in life? Ask Him to do this. He loves you and will sanctify you through Scripture and the power of the Holy Spirit counseling you day by day. God alone can perfectly equip you for the future by forgiving you, cleansing you, and leading you in righteousness.

When I became a mother, God got right to work addressing my pride, self-sufficiency, and self-righteousness. It hurt at first, but once I experienced the freedom from certain weaknesses and sin, I was hooked. The sooner we can recognize and confess sin, the better!

Do any of these common struggles look familiar to you? Take it to God and to His Word…

jealousy
selfishness
pride
bitterness
refusal to forgive
unfaithfulness
insecurity
loneliness
neediness
lack of joy

  1. Build a happy home.

I asked my 11-year-old daughter, “When do you feel most loved?” Her answer didn’t surprise me. (Hint: It’s not when she has gone on a grand vacation, had a thrilling experience, or received birthday presents.) She said she feels loved when I am happy.

(This reminds me of that refrigerator magnet that says, “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!” How true.)

Our attitudes as mothers not only determine the atmosphere for our entire household but also communicate our love for our children. That’s a big responsibility.

Start here: My mom used to come into our rooms in the morning and zip open the blinds, while singing “Good morning, Merry Sunshine”. When I’d come home from school, she’d be humming along with beautiful music on the radio. These are precious memories to me because they made me feel safe and loved.

That’s why I think it’s important to greet my children lovingly in the morning. I hug them and smile at them. I tell them how happy I am to see them. I hold my baby in my arms and open the blinds. We look out at the world and talk about what a beautiful world God has made. I’ve long since learned that I don’t always feel pleasant in the morning, but I can choose to rejoice in the Lord and in the day He has made.

Throughout the day, when I notice that we’re dragging a bit, I play background music or sing. You should see the difference that comes across my children: though they were agitated and aimless, they become calm and industrious. There’s no question about it: children are at their best when they feel happy and loved.

Another way I build a happy home is by smiling. In fact, I consider my smile to be my #2 strategy in building my home, second only to prayer. I want my countenance to say Jesus gives us abundant life! Without realizing it, I often go for hours without smiling! When I finally remember to smile, I’m alarmed by how stiff and serious my face feels. I’m too often focused on seriously surviving instead of happily thriving. When I smile, I feel better about almost everything in the world. (By the way, have you ever noticed that women are most beautiful when they smile? Sign me up!)

I also look for ways we can laugh together, make memories together, and work side-by-side .

Building a happy home is a major priority in my day-to-day. It informs how and why I correct my children, how and why I encourage them. I’m constantly guiding all of us toward taking responsibility for our relationships and the atmosphere of our home.

What would increase the happiness in your home today? Jot it down.

  1. Introduce your child to God.

God has given mothers the honor of raising our children with truth, goodness and beauty, through His Word. Although we cannot force our child to embrace faith in Christ or live according to the Bible, we are their first exposure to His forgiveness, character, and Story. We are God’s missionaries, making disciples in our own homes. What a calling!

Start here: As early as possible, we can tell our children that God made them and the world. We can tell them that He never sleeps, but always protects and cares for us. We can tell them that God forgives us and will help us to obey, that God listens to our prayers, any time, any where.

Most of all, we can raise our children with Scripture all around – in songs, memory verses, and Bible reading.

When our children are 0 – 3 years old, we play a lot of Scripture-based music from Seeds Family Worship, Songs for Saplings, and Steve Green’s Hide ’em In Your Heart series.

When our children are 3 – 5 years old, we read The Jesus Storybook Bible to them. Then, we move on to The Mighty Acts of God.

Once they are in third grade, we encourage them to read from their own Bibles, to write meaningful notes in a journal, and to share what they are learning.

How would you like to introduce your children to God this week? Jot it down.

  1. Focus on building character in your child.

We want our children to have strong, godly character because it glorifies God and brings contentment and favor. A healthy dose of wisdom and carefully-trained character will set our children up for goodness regardless of their circumstances.

For example, as a homeschooling mom, I often consider the depth of character my children would need if they suddenly have to attend the local public school. What if they are behind academically? What if they are ahead? What if they are socially rejected? What if they are socially idolized? Regardless of how they fare academically or socially, I want my children to have the character that allows them to adjust to changes gracefully, to sit in their desks and work diligently, to respect their teachers, and to be kind to the other students. Their character is in the forefront of my mind as I make decisions for our homeschool experience. Worksheets, checklists, lessons, and tests take a backseat to the hearts and minds that are being developed day by day. Don’t get me wrong, worksheets and lessons are often the ground on which their character is developed, but my eye is always on the outcome of character beyond the correct answers or successful performance.

We will never regret focusing the first few years of our children’s lives teaching them to obey, tell the truth, care about other people, and take care of their belongings.

Start here: I often reference Sally and Clay Clarkson’s 24 Family Ways and Charlotte Mason’s Laying Down the Rails. Both of these resources provide ideas for building character in our children that will benefit them through life. In fact, these two books alone will keep us busy until graduation day and beyond.

  1.  Learn what children truly need and prioritize that.

After listening to seminars, learning from mentors, and reading volumes about child development, I’ve developed a personal List of 8 Things That Cause Children to Thrive. Here’s what made the cut:

  • knowledge of God through His Word
  • tangible love
  • healthy boundaries
  • gentle discipline
  • healthy sleep
  • healthy food
  • plenty of outdoor play, and
  • consistent exposure to beauty.

When I get distracted, depressed, or overwhelmed, I review this list and discover that I am inspired all over again. Whenever I need to make a decision about how we’ll spend our time, energy, and money on our child’s behalf, I weigh it against this list. I haven’t been disappointed yet.

Start here: Prayerfully seek wisdom from Scripture above all.

Then, read For the Children’s Sake and The Simple Charlotte Mason to get you started. I’ve also learned from authors like Paul Tripp, Edith Schafer, Susan Schafer McCauley, and Maria Montessori.

While you’re studying, you’ll also become a student of the child God has given you. From an early age, you will notice that your child responds to certain types of instruction, correction, and engagement. Ask God to give you insight about the marvelous way He created your child, so that you can nurture him well.

Now it’s time to choose one thing…

Choose one of these things to pursue this month. You won’t be spinning your wheels, wasting your time, or adding unnecessary stress to your family. Work on establishing a strong foundation and building life-sustaining habits that are necessary for a thriving youngster, a strong momma, and a happy home.

What will you pursue this month? Share it in the comments!

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The Big Family Book Party: April 2017

LauraAll Posts, Books

We dug out the Easter baskets for April’s photo shoot. 🙂 Our whole family got together and decided to share what we have been reading this month. From the youngest to the oldest, we’ve each chosen one book that we think you – or someone you know – would love. Even Ryan gets in on the fun. (He’s a good sport.)

We hope that you enjoy our suggestions. What have you been reading lately? Let us know in the comments!

For the babies…

Usborne Trucks was our first “boy” book. It’s been well-loved all these years and our baby loves its bumpy, rubbery, shiney Touchy Feely experience… and the cute fuzzy animals that show up here and there. It’s his go-to this month.

For the sweet toddlers…

Who doesn’t love Frances? This toddler has a birthday coming up and she has been loving this book about Gloria’s birthday party. A Birthday for Frances is Russell Hoban at his best (again) with cups of jelly beans, rainbow place cards, birthday candles, and party poppers.  No matter how many times we read it aloud, we all wince when Francis is squeezing that Chompo bar…

For anyone with a heart…

A Sick Day for Amos McGee is at the top of our library stack this month. We love the way Amos’ careful friendships display the give-and-take of love. I was so thrilled when our son brought it to the read-aloud table for the third time. I said, “I love Amos McGee.” He sighed and said, “Me, too.” That’s what you want, folks. That’s what you want.

For the tween and/ or her mom…

Shannon Hale’s Princess Academy is on the A-List for so many tween girls because it is smart, realistic, suspenseful, and honest. Lia liked the believable culture and history that Hale creates. I liked that the main character is real with strengths and weaknesses.

For anyone who appreciates a satisfying ending…

Viv actually began The Mysterious Benedict Society a couple of times but wasn’t sure she could make it through. It was a bit intense for her and she felt intimidated by the imaginative powers. But, she recently braved through it and was delighted by the ending. How satisfying! Now, she’s looking forward to the second in the series.

For all of the Easter Bunnies out there…

I’ve been itching to tell you about Nancy Guthrie’s Praying through the Bible for Your Kids. It is so incredible and has been such a gift to me during these days of sparse solitary devotional time. Every day – every single day – Guthrie takes us straight to Scripture to meditate and pray for our children accordingly. These prayers are not topical and not typical, they are not watered-down or patronizing. Instead, they are based upon God’s promises through Christ and align my heart with the Word day by day. Can’t recommend it enough.

And this month Ryan recommends one his favorites, Nate Silver’s book on statistics, The Signal and the Noise: Why So Many Predictions Fail – But Some Don’t. He predicts the thinker in your life will like it.

Now, it’s your turn: This month, I recommend reading _________. Let us know in the comments! ?

When Your Child Doesn’t Love You

LauraBabies, Discipleship, Motherhood, Toddlers

Is there anything worse for a mother than to feel like her child doesn’t love her?

I think it’s one of the big silent aches of motherhood. We don’t talk about it often because it feels so personal, so humiliating.

But it’s not the end of the world. I promise.

In fact, it’s an invitation to hope, to look for redemption, to grow.

There was a time when one of our children didn’t love me.

Whenever I would tuck that little one into bed and kiss those soft baby cheeks, my child would stare at the ceiling, ignoring my affection. I’d say, “I love you, Sweetie,” and hear nothing in response.

This happened night after night.

During the day, I sensed a distance, a chill, a separation.

It hurt so deeply that I tried to ignore it for a while.

But ultimately, I had to face reality. I had to admit to myself, “Your child doesn’t love you right now.”

As I lay my head on my pillow that night, heartbroken, I asked God what I should do. He showed me that I was causing the problem.

When things began to turn around…

I had recently had a newborn baby: I was exhausted and stressed. When I’d finally get the baby to sleep, the toddler would throw a massive ear-splitting fit. In my exhaustion and stress, I’d grab that toddler by the arms and harshly whisper, “Stop it!” (That, of course, was 0% effective.) The Holy Spirit revealed to me that every time I mistreated my toddler during the day, I was driving a wedge between us.

I’m ashamed to admit that this is why my toddler didn’t love me and why my expressions of love seemed to fall on deaf ears. In a gush of tears, I repented of my sin and asked the Holy Spirit to strengthen me, soften me, and give me wisdom to win my child’s heart.

I got to work the next day by sitting face to face with my child and apologizing for my impatience and harshness. I explained why I kept losing my patience, but ultimately took responsibility for my actions. I said, “I have been wrong to treat you this way. Will you forgive me? I’m asking the Holy Spirit to help me grow in patience and gentleness. You watch and see! He’s going to help me grow.”

Miracles happen when God leads us to love…

I’ll never forget how my sweet child looked at me in the eyes, nodding with all the understanding in the world. Throughout the next days and weeks, the Holy Spirit helped me to work hard to connect with my toddler. I apologized immediately if I ever lost my temper. I intentionally reached out for my little one through the day and committed to extending tangible, vocal, and physical love regardless of my child’s response.

God impressed on my heart to never ask for a hug, to never demand an “I love you.” He led me to give, give, give. No strings attached – not even in the privacy of my own heart. That’s what the Holy Spirit was requiring of me, and enabling me to do.

I learned that when our children treat us poorly, we are invited to imitate Christ: to love without expecting anything in return. We can treasure His example for us – for us – in Scripture.

“Be ye kind, one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32

Savor Reconciliation…

I’m glad to say that it wasn’t long before the chill dissipated and my bouncy loving toddler was returning kisses and hugs, making eye contact, and even initiating “I love you’s”. I’m glad to say that our love has been strong for years since and that we’ve never had a chilly season like that again.

What I learned from that experience is that as parents, it is always our privilege to love unconditionally.

As far as I can tell, children begin trying on “the prodigal son” role when they are 2 years old, easily finding reasons to reject us, to reject our love. Around that time, we too have a role to try on. When our children push back against us, our Heavenly Father invites us to emulate Him, to try on the love that He has always extended toward us: He invites us to be the prodigal’s father, ever loving, ever welcoming.

I propose that in real time – as real humans – it looks like this…

  1. Searching for our contribution to the relational rift; asking God to help us see what we can do to win our child back.
  2. Confessing our sin and asking our children to forgive us, as often as necessary.
  3. Retelling the story of God’s grace toward us – and toward them – through Jesus, our Savior.
  4. Pursuing them, spending time with them, smiling at them, laughing with them, showing them that they are a delight to our hearts and that they are safe in our home.
  5. Forgiving, forgiving, forgiving them – sometimes confronting – but always forgiving.
  6. And loving tangibly, loving verbally, loving without demands as God, through Christ, has loved us.

Ours is a call to lay down pride and put on humility, to exchange our hurt feelings for His forgiveness, to take our child’s anger to Jesus, instead of taking it to heart.

In so doing, we will be obeying our Heavenly Father, who sees our obedience as us reaching our arms back to Him in love. “I love you, Daddy.” He hears. How deeply sweet.

Then on top of that, per chance we will win the heart of our children and cry in relief that love has triumphed once again.

“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Colossians 3: 12-17

(P.S. In this post, I’m speaking of young children here because I am not experienced with teenagers or young adults yet. However, I have a hunch that the process is similar. Moms of older children, we’d love for you to add your insight in the comments. Would you?)

As We Empty Ourselves for God, He Will Fill Us

LauraBible Study, Ministry, Motherhood

I can finally relate to a “good guy” in the Bible.

(Don’t you find that we usually end up relating to the “bad guy” . . . the older brother in the story of the prodigal son, the younger brother in the prodigal son, the self-protecting priest in the story of the Good Samaritan, and the haughty Pharisees?)

It comes as a relief to finally see myself in a person that Jesus said was doing the right thing. Surprisingly, when I put myself in her shoes, I don’t feel as awesome and righteous as I thought I might. In fact, there’s a part of me that feels humbled and sad.

First, a short story . . .

Lately, I feel like I am giving 100 percent—leaving it all on the court—just to mother my five children. Yet I miss serving the Lord outside of our home. I think it’s important to reach my arms out in kindness, for Christ’s sake as well as for my children’s sake. So I look for opportunities when I’m able.

An Opportunity to Serve

We recently had a chance to serve someone outside of our family.

Late one night, tragedy hit a dear friend of mine. I heard about it in the morning and packed the kiddos up as quickly as I could. We arrived at her apartment to sit with her. It was wonderful to be able to do that. The children were considerate and compassionate. My friend was the least-needy person on the face of the planet. I rubbed her back when she cried, we chatted, and we helped her run an errand. After noon, we headed home for the baby’s naptime.

By the time we got in the door, our strength was sapped. We were practically gasping for air.

The kids fell apart instantly. Crying, fussing, fogginess . . . we all muddled around for lunch, ate, and crashed. My highly compassionate/emotionally tuned child was so drained, he took a very uncharacteristic nap. I couldn’t get dinner on the table, and I didn’t have any emotional availability for my husband when he came home from work.

To tell you the truth, we didn’t really regain our footing for a couple of days. We gave everything we had. But it wasn’t even that much.

When We Give So Little

I felt crushed before the Lord. “Why don’t I have more strength? I want to serve You, but the simplest things wear me out! I wish I had more emotional rebound, more energy. I wish I could keep going after serving someone.”

That’s when I remembered the widow of Luke 21 or Mark 12. The one Jesus “looked up and saw” putting two small copper coins in the temple offering.

He said, “Truly, I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on” (Luke 21:3–4).

She’s the “good guy” to whom I can relate: the poor widow who gave all she had.

I look at her and say, “Yes, I feel like her. I know I’m not nearly as generous as she, but I feel like I’m offering as much as I can. And I feel like it’s only two mites worth.”

Can you relate to her, too? Are you giving everything you’ve got and wondering why it seems so little?

Click over to TrueWoman.com for the 4 powerful lessons I learned from the Widow…

(Share this with a woman who is giving everything she’s got? She’ll be encouraged to know that she’s not the only one… and that Jesus sees her sacrifice and will fill her back up again.)

Easter Traditions: Resurrection Eggs and Easter Sunday

LauraAll Posts, Holidays

We’re getting ready to begin our annual journey through the Easter Story with our Resurrection Eggs. Each plastic egg contains a small symbol from the gospel story – a donkey, silver coins, praying hands. For the 12 days before Easter, we open one egg each day, gradually telling the story. I read a little picture book called “Benjamin’s Box: The Story of the Resurrection Eggs,” which follows a boy through the crucifixion and resurrection as he, himself, gathers each item that we have in the eggs. In order to open the 12th egg on Easter Sunday, we’ll begin the story on Wednesday, April 5th.

Before the 12 days even begin, the oldest kids figure out a pattern of “who opens which egg, when”. They know – oh, they know – if this doesn’t happen, chaos ensues morning after morning, with “IT’S MY TURN!” and so on. We all agree that it seems silly to fight over Resurrection Eggs (of all things), but still it’s good to be peacefully proactive. 😉

Some years, I have my act together enough to lead the children in creating A Grace Garden for Easter. I first read about these on Ann Voskamp’s blog many years ago and I just love how the dirt, the garden, and the empty tomb are visual reminders of what really happened.

On Easter morning, we give each child an Easter basket with some jelly beans, a book that will encourage them in their faith, a chocolate cross, and a little animal.

(The little animal thing is funny, and I’m not sure how it started, but I love how each animal reminds them about God’s wonderful hand in creation. By now, we have quite a collection: a moose, an elephant, 2 cows, a red fox, a beaver, several little lambs, and many other creatures that are often used to teach the newest baby, or are organized into habitats, or arranged at a zoo, or invited to live in a talking barnyard. I like to invest in the Safari LTD brand, especially the bigger animals, sold individually at places like Michael’s.)

We dress up, head out to church, and usually help with the music there. Between church and nap time, we try to snap a photo or two. Then, we enjoy a feast at one of our parents’ homes with an Easter egg hunt for the kids.

What are your favorite Easter traditions?

Host A Christian Passover Celebration with Children

LauraHolidays, Motherhood

Passover is my favorite holiday.

It’s the traditional Jewish meal that Jesus was celebrating with his disciples the night he was betrayed. Now we call it “The Last Supper”; it was during this Passover meal Jesus instituted our beloved Communion Meal. Passover was the “this” in His, “Do this in remembrance of me.

Spring’s first flowers decorate the farmhouse table.

Warm, spring air wafts through the windows, bringing hope.

Families and friends gather to celebrate how God has freed us from our slavery to sin.

As the Israelites celebrate their deliverance from slavery in Egypt, we celebrate our deliverance from sin and death. To escape the Angel of Death, the Israelites covered their doorposts with the blood of a lamb. We celebrate that, by grace, our lives are covered by our Lamb, Jesus’, blood. Death has passed over us and has no sting.

A peek inside our celebration…

The ceremony is abuzz with children and adults alike, remembering that ancient story of the Israelite’s deliverance, while seeing Christ in every symbol, every taste, every smell. Some parts of the ceremony are active, some are reflective. Some require participation, some require a listening ear.

I prepare a big meal – often lamb kababs and rice – that we enjoy together, right in the midst of the ceremony. We let our guards down, take bathroom breaks, refill water glasses, and help the children cut their meat. Amidst the hubbub and interruptions, we share about the ways God has delivered each one of us. Even the children pipe up and tell about His goodness in their lives. I cherish it, year after year.

The ceremony is beautiful. It builds my faith, year after year. God is such a good teacher to have instituted a sensory meal – full of history, full of heart, full of truth – to remind us, over and over again about His love for us through Jesus.

After the two white Passover candles are extinguished, our guests linger, expressing gratitude and wonder. One by one, they head out the door.

By the end of the evening, the floor is covered in Matzah crumbs, the table is sprinkled with sparkling grape juice droplets. Half-nibbled parsley rests on the edge of saltwater bowls and crumpled napkins hide the bitter herbs that the children didn’t prefer to swallow.

We methodically clean up the dishes, filling the dishwasher to the brim and shoving it closed for the evening.

As it begins its 2 hour chore, Ryan and I hug one another right there in the kitchen. We sigh and breathe gratefully about the work and wonder of the Passover Meal.

You could celebrate Passover, too…

May I take you step by step through the preparation and ceremony?  I’d love to help make your celebration as simple and meaningful as possible, so I wrote a Christian Passover Seder with Children that you can download and print for free.

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This collection is straight-forward and organized, including an “Items Needed” list, a “Before Your Guests Arrive” check-list, and 2 recipes.

Print it out and read through it so you can wrap your mind around the ceremony ahead of time. You’ll want to keep the script close-by as you’ll be leading the entire ceremony. (Take heart! We’ve been celebrating the Passover for over 11 years and we still have to follow the script pretty closely.)

I wrote this with children in mind. I kept the ceremony as brief and clear as possible, as we aim to tell one generation after another the mighty acts of God.

I hope it builds your faith.

Joyous Passover, my friend!

(photo credit)

Do You Want to Train Your Kids in Kindness?

LauraAll Posts, Character Training, Motherhood

My friend Steph just emailed this question, “I’m currently reading Corrie ten Boom’s “Tramp for the Lord”. Have you read this? It’s so good. Anyways, in there she’s talking about her first bath and meal after being freed from the Nazi prison and she says that the girls who bathed her were “trained in kindness”. I thought about my girls and how I would love for this to be them – to be trained in kindness. Any practical insight in how to do that?

I sat down to reply and these little scenes gathered in my mind:

One time, I saw a 4-year-old boy put his arm around his 4-year-old soccer teammate, to comfort him after a big disappointment.

Another time, an energetic 7-year old boy stood behind a group of hungry kids and said, “I can go last.”

This past Sunday, a 9-year old girl accidentally hurt my daughter. She stooped down beside her, touched her back and asked, “Are you alright? I am so sorry!”

And, of course, there was that time I brought our children to a Field Day. My 18-month old baby boy was reaching into a little plastic swimming pool, feeling the water. A gang of 7-year-old boys started goading my impressionable baby with, “Put your head in the water! Put your head in the water!” A brave 8-year-old stood up and said to them, “Put your own heads in the water.”

(Don’t you just love that?)

Kindness touches our hearts, reminding us of what we truly, deeply desire.

Life is busy and distracting; we forget that we need kindness like we need air.

But when we see kindness, we remember its importance and we breathe it in.

When we see unkindness, we gasp and miss it.

We want kindness in our homes and in our kids. We want it for our happiness – and theirs. We want it for God’s glory. But it does not come naturally.

Is it possible to teach our children how to be kind?

Oh, yes! It’s not only possible, it’s necessary. Kindness must be the heart-and-soul of our ministry as mothers. For it is the heart-and-soul of Christ’s ministry. It’s part of love. It’s what the Holy Spirit creates day after day, the fruit of kindness.

Let’s walk backward, down the route toward training our children in kindness. Take a look and tell me what you would add:

3. We teach our children to be kind by inviting them to be kind with us.

When someone has stubbed a toe, say “Let’s go get him an ice pack!” When someone is lonely, say “Let’s go visit her together! We’ll cheer her up!” When someone needs something, say “Let’s give him what he needs.”

Your child will lean on your hand, your company, and your enthusiasm for kindness. Don’t expect the initiative to come from your little one; she’s just starting out in life. You’ll come up with the ideas and invite her along for the joy.

Of course, we can’t invite our children to be kind with us, unless we are kind to them.

2. We teach our children to be kind by being kind to them.

I learned to brush my daughters’ hair, rub lotion on my son’s dry hands, spoon-feed my baby because my mother did all of those things for me. I learned to plan special celebrations, write heartfelt notes, give a hug, sing a song, and save the day because my mother did all of those things for me.

Knowing how delightful kindness feels, my heart’s desire and greatest pleasure has become extending kindness to others. My mother spoke the language of kindness until I learned to speak it, too.

Let’s make this question the air we breathe out, “How can I help, darling?”

Of course, we can’t be kind to our children unless we have received the kindness of Christ.

1. We teach our children to be kind by receiving kindness from Christ.

Our own efforts to be kind wear thin, but Jesus sustains kindness forever. Once we have received His kindness toward us – His life laid down on our behalf – all of our selfish questions are answered and our longings are satisfied. This is profoundly life-changing, settling our hearts in such a way as to make human kindness possible. To make matters better, Jesus Himself will work in us to produce kindness in this dark world.

Savor the kindness of Christ every day, every moment.

In Christ, we will extend kindness to our children day by day. We’ll extend kindness to the outside world, inviting our children to join us.

Don’t you worry… One day, your little girls will do the same, well-trained and well-loved by kindness, just like you.

The Winner of the GIVEAWAY!

LauraAll Posts

I’m happy to announce that Courtney Whetzel won the beautiful hand-stamped gifts from A Gilded Line! Congratulations, Courtney!

Thank you to each person who entered the contest. I haven’t hosted a giveaway in ages. In fact, in the history of my 10 year-old blog, I hosted one giveaway. ONE! I gave away a jar of my favorite berry jam. (Isn’t that charming?)

SO, this special giveaway from A Gilded Line – with beautiful handmade artwork featuring such encouraging words – was a big deal for me. I appreciate each and everyone of you who joined in the fun.

I hope you were encouraged just by reading the quotations, like “Courage, dear heart”. I hope that you, too, hear God whispering that to you as you face today’s tasks.

I also want to thank Allison from A Gilded Line for generously creating and giving the gifts! Visit her often as you plan “just the right gift” for the people you love!

Whatever I do here at LauraBooz.com – from writing posts about motherhood to sharing meal planners and hosting giveaways – I desire to build you up and point you toward Jesus. You can look forward to that!

I’m so glad that you’re a part of the community here at LauraBooz.com. Visit often and keep me updated in the comments or on my Facebook page. 🙂

Grateful,

Laura