Let Him Fly

Did you know that most men define “nagging” as being told to do something once – if it’s in a degrading, complaining tone?

A couple of years ago, my nagging on Ryan got way too incessant. It was actually during a personal prayer time that the Holy Spirit practically spoke out loud to me, “LEAVE THE GUY ALONE.” He gave me the idea to say nothing negative to or about Ryan for 30 days. Of course, it was so difficult at first; I had developed a way of thinking that needed to be completely reworked. But after a week or two, I started to experience the beauty of letting him go… Here’s more:







10 responses to “Let Him Fly”

  1. Jenny Avatar

    I remember you STRONGLY suggesting I to this back in the summer of ’06. Worked then ๐Ÿ˜‰ Now, to do it again. Thanks for the reminder. I shared it on FB…and I plan to keep my friends updated throughout the next 30 days. Todd might just chime in ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Laura Avatar

    That’s wonderful, Jenny! Remember how well you won that guy’s heart?! Amazing. Love you!

  3. Lisa Avatar

    First, I must admit it. I am a nagger. There, I said it! I am a NAGGER! Now, to work on controlling my thoughts and words. I will try my hardest to not be a nag!! What a great challenge!!!! 30 days of no nagging will be music to my husbands ears, I am sure!

  4. Laura Avatar

    Bravo for your transparency and confession, Lisa! ๐Ÿ™‚
    You’re going to LOVE this project. You thought your hubby was great before; just wait until the light shines even brighter. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Laine Avatar

    Thank you for this wonderful encouragement! Jenny shared this on FB and someone commented that while this was a nice idea, we shouldn’t have to keep quiet and “not be able to get our point across” to our husbands. It struck me that all too often “getting my point across” is far more important to me than loving my husband as God desires. Thanks again for this wonderful reminder of what being a help mate really means!

    1. Laura Avatar

      Oh my, I totally agree with your FB friend, Laine: it’s amazing that we can voice our thoughts and feelings openly with our husbands and we should never stop, whether they be good, bad, or indifferent. I hope she understands the *type* of negative remarks and attitude that I’m talking about here. It’s much much different! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  6. Brandy Avatar

    Fellow nagger here … but I’m marking it on the calender. 30 days of NO NAGGING. No negative remarks.

    I’ve never heard of Patty Griffin before … so I looked up that song on YouTube. GORGEOUS!

    1. Laura Avatar

      Brandy – Good for you! You will never ever regret the hard work! ๐Ÿ™‚ Also, I am elated that you now know Patty Griffin. She is… wow.

  7. Laine Avatar

    Absolutely! Sharing my thoughts and heart’s desires is totally different than nagging about the way I think my husband “must” do things. And as God works on my heart, I realize how often I choose to be nagging or negative toward my hubby in an attempt to get my own way. Again, thanks for the encouragement!

  8. Jenny Avatar

    OK! So, the month is over and I think I did a great job. BUT–my husband will have to be the one to say if he noticed anything or not! Everyday this challenge was on my mind and heart. It was hard, but felt so great!

    It has become a great habit, or part of the wifely character God wants me to play in Todd’s life. Love it.

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